"... where INDEPENDENT artists shine!"

Can you honestly say that you know the people you truly love and care about the most?

What I mean by this is with all the adultery in marriages, the cheating with your significant other, and the secrets and lies.....

When having sex or being intimate in any kind of way are you really being honest with yourself??? Being true to yourself to even not think about using the protection that you know deep down your suppose to be using. Yes, unexpectedly things happen, but we are smart enough to know better than to just go by trust only because once this person is not in your eye sight, you really don't know what they are doing.

Just say for instance I hang with my group of friends at school and then when I leave them I go home and be with another group of friends in my neighborhood. Well, that's great that I can have so many friends, but within the "Circles" that I'm in can I honestly say that we are all honest with each other....NO! I can't! Only because I know that everyone keeps secrets and some of us are not at all being truly faithful with our spouses, girlfriends, boyfriends, and significant others.
True enough whatever we do is our business, but when we start the cheating and the lying then we all get caught up in a DANGEROUS CIRCLE OF LIFE.

You can't just go by "It just happened!" because that saying is getting old to every one's ears especially mines. I mean if I was someone who had an STD or HIV, anything that could hurt or infect someone else why would I jeopardize them with all of that. Or, even if you know someone with anything that could hurt anyone else and you keep it as a secret, wouldn't you feel out of place, knowing that this person is spreading around something that is so deadly and not thinking that well it can come right back around and bite you in the ass! All because you didn't speak up and warn others...Why? Oh, because these are my friends and I love them deeply and don't want to hurt them, but you and your friend are still liable to hurting others!

All because you kept a secret and lied!

Can you honestly say that you know the people that you are dealing with on a daily bases???

This is real speak out and let me know what you think??? And say what's on your mind!!!!

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Comment by Heather P on June 24, 2009 at 11:20pm: Oh and I meant to say everyone!!! LOL!

Comment by Heather P on June 24, 2009 at 11:19pm: This post was in awareness for us and the people around us who are surrounded by the definition of life and whats inside and beyond it. "Circles" is basically what we are discussing....inside my book is a massive creation of drama and suspense, that will keep you on the edge of your seat and wanting to know whats next and what happens. Everyone tends to drift away from the thought of HIV and if they are or not. HIV awareness is very important and I think everone should be aware and cautious with that in mind. Especially with our younger generation. The topic goes deeper and like people do say tu shay: Sh** does happen!!! And KARMA is a b****. As for the cheating, the lies, and the adultery....that is a whole other topic that is very deep too!!!! Please keep responding I want to know what you think.....

Comment by AJ Houston on June 24, 2009 at 2:18pm: Nice conversation. Crystal is always on point. We must look at the question in HD Wide Screen because America is the perfect example as to why secret and lies are a disruptive force to all involved. The leading stories over the past year were of cheating Governors and Senators, CEO's, movie stars and the list is mounting. Each individual must first be honest with self but knowing the motive or intent of friends and or associates is next to impossible. The words and actions they offer are all we have to go by. There are those that lie exquisitely well and you will never know but there are those whose answers become short or non existent because they can't remember the lie. So choose those you label friend carefully if history has taught us anything its knives usually comes from close proximity and from someone you know, (Julius C.) As for actions detrimental to the health of others safety is paramount. We must do what must be done and even though the phrase is a common one it is not easily judged what that is. Know thyself and if those who gravitate to you know what you are about you will probably be the sounding board of support and help when needed good shoulders are hard to come by. Thank you for the topic it is most welcomed. Keep inspiring others and just from the interest I am sure you will make the right call. Thank you....

Comment by Crystal J on June 21, 2009 at 11:03pm: Great Post!

I dont believe that KNOWING someone constitutes being aware of EVERYTHING they do, especially secrets. For whatever the reason, we all have things that we have chosen to keep to ourselves, sometimes these things are a threat to others. Thus the reason they are secrets. Unfortunately we cant force people to take responsibility for their actions. We can only encourage them to do so, hope that they take our advice, and do our part to make sure no one becomes a casualty. Most of the time for me, its ignorance. Sometimes I'd just rather not know people's business. If by chance, I become privy to information that is harmful to another, especially in the context of HIV, STD, etc, I have a sworn duty to my own health to do my part to stay safe, sometimes this means speaking up, so be it.

Honestly, I believe I KNOW all of my friends but I cannot attribute knowing them to also knowing their secrets and/or condemning them if they have not made me aware of everything they do.

I dont know anyone on the face of this earth that KNOWS US better than we KNOW ourselves.

~Crystal J